LIFE LESSON #1 - of money, choice and responsibility

ohiyo!! i am back from my not very long vacation to Hokkaido

i was about to start to blog about the trip but something came up

and i decide to postpone that just because i have no mood! 

i am going to write this down because i have spent one sleepless night and few depressingly stressful days to find a closure to my problem...

and i want this to be a LIFE LESSON for me because i realise i am pretty much not exposed in monetary issues like this and to face the solution for it

frog in the well kind of situation

everytime after a trip, reality start to kick back in...payments have to be made and especially those spent on the trip..

when we go for trips with friends/famiies it would be inevitable to have common spending

or in my specific case this time, was payment on behalf.

in my specific case, what happened was Kelly's (gonna call her K from now on) husband told me at the airport to take care of his wife as this is the first time she is going overseas for trip and he gave a budget of RM3k for her expenses..

well, merrily-happy-excited-for-the-trip me noted and agreed. and so the rest of the trip was all well and good... though we spent off all our cash in hand and i had to think of ways to find more cash....got it and swipe some on my magic card!

back home, back to reality... after reconciliation with magic card bank and also other fellow tour friends, time to pay back debts had arrived. i calculated everything nicely,got all information and informed K about the amount that needed to be paid. The response i got from K was -------------silent---------------------

so then i sent the details Pingu and told him to claim from K's husband the money for me. K's husband did briefly spoke to me that he has no money to pay me. i honestly thought it was kind of like a joke and took it lightly.

until one fine morning, K's father in law called me.. and asked how much did she owe me. He told me that he will pay for all her additional expenses and mine too! i objected and refused to accept the offer of course! how can one old man pay for our own additional expenses???

the fact that it is additional is a CHOICE. i can opt to not spend any extra but i chose to because i have made the decision that i will be responsible for the amount spent. K CHOSE to spend extra because her husband said he gave her additional RM3k to spend.

then it dawned to me that K's husband was not joking after all. he had no money to pay and intend to just leave it as it is. i was like FUCK! what is this attitude? what kind of mentality is this? this is not how somebody whom i actually regarded as 'family' treat each other! ALL LIES and trying to take advantage of my kind heart!!! BLOODY FUCK no wonder K was silent.

i was also angry with K. BLOODY HELL you fucking spent happily like a rich bitch and now when it is payback time, u keep quiet? act like nothing had happened? what?? think that money will drop down from the sky? HUH! shouldn't you as a WIFE should be responsible to claim money back from your beloved husband the money to pay me back???

HELLO!!! however much your husband owe you does not mean the whole world owes you too! fucking please realize that I AM NOT YOUR FAMILY or anything that you may think i could be related to you that made you think that you could take advantage of me! if your STUPID husband is not able to pay for your spending, you should know it. CONTROL YOURSELF LAH BITCH! and even so, after that you should bear the responsibility of your own spending. you should go ask the old man for money and pay me. NOT FUCKING JUST TREAT LIKE NOTHING HAS HAPPENED and the old man had to call me and take responsibility of your actions!

Fine! Lesson to learn. DO NOT TRUST ANYONE... however much i may agree, i am still going to reserve some trust for my own family and close friends. People i know that will stick to you through thick and thin and most importantly, RESPONSIBLE for their own actions.

strangers, not so close friends, and others (especially K and husband) shall not be trusted anymore and should they ever ever need me to pay for them or lend them any money... well, i would say that the request had to go through many levels of decision and will be questioned thoroughly and to be honest, i think would unlikely pass through the first few levels of decision making. u see, one of the levels will question their INTEGRITY and so i guess K's and husband does not have any and their names have been BLACKLISTED dy. 

FTL